“None of us can ever save himself; we are the instruments of one another’s salvation, and only by the hope that we give to others do we lift ourselves out of the darkness into light.” ― Dean Koontz   

While I was home, I was reminded of the challenges and opportunities that comes with family (given or chosen) and the joys and pain of intimate relationships. Seeing things in others that are a reflection of you feels terrible sometimes, but also can be really liberating. Unless we’re trying to move into a cave for the rest of our lives, we are dependent upon others to act as a mirror to allow us the self awareness to evolve.
Taking on this role as owner/director has been such a lesson for me in the ways i treat others, and ultimately in how i am treating myself. Awareness is a privilege, and we’re only made aware through the feedback we receive. The places where we thought we had communicated clearly or put a boundary in place and find that our intention didn’t perform as, well, intended. While I think it’s important to have an intention, ultimately, once we’re underway, once the conversation has begun, the class has started, the work has commenced, it’s not just a matter of what our intention was, It’s what’s happening. It’s the aliveness that we experience not just through our own senses, but from within the interaction. It’s not about pleasing, or entertaining, or protecting, or masking, but about putting aside our expectations and feeling the dance.
If we approach life from the idea that it’s me against the rest of the world, we’ll just push everything away. But when we embrace the knowledge that we’re engaged in a divine dance with everyone we come across, learning how to be a better dance partner. We can be all we want for ourselves in our own heads, in our own rooms, but then we have to trust the outside world to teach us how to be who we think we are, who we want to be, who we know we are, who we are meant to become. Only where we intersect with others are we something more than separate.
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Meditation for Clear Communication

This meditation activates the Mercury power, the power of communication.

Center yourself with three deep inhalations and exhalations (or by chanting Ong Namo Guru Dev Namo).

Posture: Sit in any meditative posture, i.e., Easy Pose or in a chair with a straight spine with a light neck lock (Jalandhar Bandh).

Focus: The eyes are closed, looking upwards into the third eye point.

Breath: The breath will come naturally.

Mantra: Meditatively listen to “Beloved God,” the first song on Singh Kaur’s Peace Lagoon CD.

Mudra: Touch the thumb and Mercury (pinky) finger of one hand to the thumb and pinky finger of the other hand. Bend the Sun (ring) finger in toward the palms, but do not let them touch the palms. Leave the Jupiter (index) and Saturn (middle) fingers pointing straight up, but not touching. Hold this mudra 3” to 4” in front of the center of the chest.

Time: Start with 11 minutes and work up to 31 minutes.

End: Not specified. You can always, inhale, hold for 5-10 seconds, then exhale and relax.